The Positivity Trap3
Recently I posted a rant on Facebook which has since generated hundreds of comments, likes and shares — so I thought I’d share here as well. I clearly hit a nerve and started an important conversation – which is a good thing, regardless of whether you agree with me or not.
*** Warning: This post represents my personal views and might not sit well with a few fab people in my tribe. I’m quite ok if I ruffle a few feathers, but my intention is not to offend anyone.
Deep breaths. Here it goes…
*NOTHING* pisses me off more than conscious/spiritual folks who are so obsessed with staying positive that they avoid anything that might be taken as negative in any way.
All of you Law of Attraction fans who are terrified of any negative thoughts for fear of attracting more of that into your life. Ugh.
Now before you get mad at me – I’m well aware that the LOA is more than that. I know that many folks misunderstand the teachings and apply them not in the way they’re intended.
But I have seen far too many women (and some men) who live their lives behind a facade, covering up their pain. They put on a happy mask and “act as if”. They read spiritual books, attend personal development workshops and watch inspirational documentaries. They practice positive affirmations, repeat mantras, write gratitude journals and drink green juice.
They’re in a perpetual state of avoidance and denial. They are disconnected from themselves and out of touch with their pain.
They’re terrified of admitting their feelings to themselves – let alone get help.
It drives me mad.
Shielding yourself from all negativity does not make you positive – it makes you delusional.
Ignoring & denying the reality in your own life, family, community and the world at large does not make you enlightened. You’re just living in a bubble.
Shoving things under the rug and pretending they’re not there is not going to bring you joy, abundance or your soulmate. It’s just going to leave you bitter and disappointed.
Avoiding and denying the truth doesn’t make it go away. Sooner or later it will come back to bite you in the butt.
Stop the sugar coating. Stop drinking the Kool-Aid. Stop the sappy talk and all the sweetness. It’s bad for your teeth and your life.
It’s time to get real with yourself and each other.
The only way out is through.
Forget positive; focus on real.
Did I just say that – as founder of a business named Positive Fabulous Women ? Yep sure did :)
Hey, I’m all for dreaming big – but it’s time you get your head out of the clouds and plant your feet firmly in the here and now.
Thoughts are powerful. It’s important to protect yourself from too much drama or pain. You need to take care of yourself. No questions there.
The reality is that we live in a cruel world. There are some terrible and sad things happening all around us. We don’t need to immerse ourselves in them. But how are we ever to change any of it if we pretend they doesn’t exist?
Oh and something else – you didn’t attract every bad thing that’s happened in your life. You didn’t manifest every ailment and disease. I’m all for personal responsibility but stop the blame already.
Shit happens to everyone. People have health issues. Accidents happen. We get sick. We suffer. We die. That’s life.
You don’t have to watch the news 24/7 but please stay informed on what’s going on in the world and in your community.
You don’t have to spend your time with people who drain and suck the life out of you – but cutting them out of your life is not the only answer either.
You don’t have to obsess about your health issues, your debt or your loneliness – but perhaps it’s time to acknowledge and deal with them head on.
Get support. Find help. Deal with reality. Find balance.
No bubble. No sugar-coating. No Kool-Aid. No blinders.
Time to get real. Be human. Feel pain. Heal.
The truth shall set you free.
Did this resonate in any way? Do you feel trapped by the expectations of having to put on a happy face? Do you find positivity a tool to help you deal with all the negativity in this world? Please comment below and let me know what you think.